Tuesday, March 17, 2015

The Buffalo Breskis

    There was a professional women's softball sports team in Buffalo for a while called the Buffalo Breskis! For real – it was in the seventies – actually, Google says the team existed from 1976 through 1978 and then in 1979 the name was changed to the Buffalo Bisons, and then the league disbanded.
     Breski was the name of one of the players and founders of the team. The team would be mentioned during the sports segment of the news broadcasts, but most of us heard of them through the jokes that were made on the radio. You have to admit that naming a women's softball team Breski would indeed engender jokes – admittedly juvenile humor. But there you have it.
     Even thinking about the Breskis, one would ponder about the mascot possibilities; the imagery of a Breski up to bat, or sliding into home. Did the team realize this when they took on the name and decide the free publicity would be good? Or did they give us all credit for a lot more maturity and think Breski would be synonomous with outstanding female atheletes who made Buffalo proud?
     Well, it worked both ways – the humor in the name made them known, and their playing gave them respect.

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Monday, March 16, 2015

Fifth Grade Part 1

   My fifth grade teacher was Mrs. Hrycik, pronounced “wry sick.” Her husband was also in the school system as an administrator somewhere. Mrs. Hrycik's two biggest emphases were spelling and penmanship.
    Spelling I could breeze through. For some reason, this always came easy to me. We had a spelling test every week with 10 new words. But every week, the word very was on the test. I spelled it correctly each time. After a few weeks Mrs. H said that she was going to continue to have very on the test until every student in the class got it right! I don't know how I managed to get it right the first time if it was so tricky for everyone else.
     There was a classmate who competed with me for the better spelling grade. One day she got a higher score than me and told me how hard she had studied for the spelling test that week! Study for spelling? What a novel concept! That had not occurred to me! I then realized that if I took the time to actually prepare for the quiz I might get perfect scores all the time. Again, a novel concept!
     For math that year we had to learn, and by learn, I mean memorize, our multiplication tables – from 0 times 0 all the way to 12 times 12. while we were memorizing our multiplication tables, we took addition tests – we added single digit numbers, just two numbers to add, ten problems across the page and ten problems down the page – 100 additions to complete in three minutes! Once we had mastered the addition, we started the multiplication problems – 100 of them, again to be completed in 3 minutes. We got to be quite good at them. Sometimes now when I need to multiply, for example, 8 times 7, and the answer does not come as instantaneously as it used to, I hang my head in shame as I imagine Mrs. Hrycik's frown.
     We had two plays that the class put on in the auditorium that year. One was a Halloween play. I was cast as the black cat. My scene was to walk on all fours across the stage to some children sitting at the feet of the parents who were telling a Halloween story. I felt really silly in my black pants and shirt crawling on all fours – there had been no rehearsal for the black cat – I was trusted to do the job right. I was very self-conscious in front of the audience, but for some reason, my cat made them laugh – they loved me! I guess I've been hooked on wanting to get audiences to laugh ever since!
     The second play I have no recollection of at all and only know about it because Mom had saved the program all these years in the envelope with my report card! The play was about Christopher Columbus, and I myself was cast as Mr. Columbus himself! It must have been a small role, maybe even without words – maybe I just stood there as a portrait of him? Because otherwise, I think I would have remembered it.
     The story of Mrs. Hrycik and our adventures with penmanship will have to carry over to another entry as it takes more than a few paragraphs to get through.


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Sunday, March 15, 2015

babysitting II

     The family I sat the most regularly for as a babysitter had two daughters and a toddler boy who definitely took a full baby-bottle of milk to his crib at bedtime. Instead of the Moose Club, like the other family I sat for, the parents of these three children were usually at Republican Club functions in our town. There are three main incidents I can remember about babysitting for this family.
     One early evening the dad picked me up in his car and on the way to the house explained that he had been eating watermelon that day with the kids. They saw him put salt on his piece of watermelon, so they wanted to do it too. Later in the afternoon, one of the girls got sick. She had been vomiting. Dad thought perhaps it was the salt on the watermelon that made her ill. They put her on the bed in their bedroom, which was on the main floor, and since she had not thrown up in a couple of hours – Mom and Dad thought she would be okay enough for them to go out. The parents not only left a phone number that night, but promised to call – and they did.
    Well, the sick child was surprisingly all right while I was there. She did not get off of her parents' bed, but neither were there any incidents of vomiting. At bedtime, I put the other two kids to bed in the room upstairs. After a while, I could hear the daughter upstairs complaining that she did not feel well. I told her that she was okay, she just thought she was sick because her sister was sick. Then she threw up – all over her bed.
     I changed the bedsheets and her clothes. Took everything to the basement – but I was afraid to use the washer – I'm still that way with other peoples' washing machines. So I left everything in a pile on top of the washer, and I called the parents. They were upset and apologetic – I told them I thought the daughter was fine at that point. So the parents said they would not come home immediately, but soon.
     After that the little boy got sick. The pile on the washer was even higher when Mom and Dad arrived. When I got to my own bed that night, I thought I was going to be sick – I told myself that I was okay, I just thought I was sick because I saw kids upchucking that night.         And I was right.
    One night when I arrived at the house, the Mom was very proud to tell me that her son no longer had his bottle – and I was not to give him one at bedtime! But when it was time to put the kids to bed, the little one fussed. I asked the girls what was wrong. And they said that their brother needed his gun! He had traded his baby bottle for a gun. It was with grave ambivalence that I handed this little boy his toy gun to caress in his crib that night.
     The last story about this family has to do with babysitting for a whole day – from 8 in the morning on a Saturday until 6 that night – 10 hours – that's $5! When my kids were little, babysitters cost $5 an hour – and in my day I had to put in an entire day to earn that much!         Well, the Mrs told me she did not have the money but would pay me later.
      They never called me again.
      They still owe me five dollars.


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Saturday, March 14, 2015

Babysitting 1

      When I was in high school, there were babysitting jobs on Saturday nights. I got paid fifty cents an hour. Of those earnings, I tithed ten percent to the church – one of the messages that sank in after all those Sundays of attendance at Mass. And at one point, I had saved up $40 and bought a typewriter – my class reports and my college term papers were finalized on that typewriter. I still had it after a few years of marriage – but gave it away during one of our moves, having learned, but never mastered, computer word processing by then.
     There are many babysitting stories I could tell – like the family with three kids whose names all started with the same letter. The Mom and Dad liked to party at the Moose Club on Saturday nights – one night they did not come home! In the morning, I called another babysitter who came to the house so I could go home – the Mom and Dad arrived later in the morning - they were fine, just partied late – she called and apologized, might have even given me some extra money. A few years later they divorced – somehow I always think the Moose Club was to blame. I loved their kids – wish I knew what they are doing now.
     There was a family I only sat for once – they had a regular sitter and I was called in an emergency. There was a toddler who still slept in a crib and an older sister, maybe two older sisters. It was time for bed and the toddler fussed and fussed. The sister explained that the little one got a bottle at bedtime – so I put some milk in a bottle and gave it to the toddler in the crib. He rejected the bottle and continued to fuss. I looked at the sisters and asked if they knew what was wrong. “He gets Coke in his bedtime bottle!” I thought they were pulling a fast one on me – I was not going to give this child Coca Cola in a bottle! But they looked so sincere, and the toddler was fussing. After much hesitancy, I decided to give him the Coke. He immediately settled down. When Mom came home, I blurted out an apology about the bottle, but Mom said she should have explained that before she left – the child did indeed get a bottle with Coke at bedtime!
     I also vividly remember that night because Lent had just started, and I had given up TV for Lent – the kids were watching The Amazing Mr. Limpet – I kept averting my eyes, but I mostly saw the whole thing and felt guilty. Breaking my promise of no-TV with a Don Knotts movie and giving a child a bottle with Coke to go to bed with – made me feel like there was no hope for me as an adult – no hope whatsoever!

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Friday, March 13, 2015

Mrs. Jones

          Fourth grade was far less eventful than third grade. My teacher was Mrs. Jones, an older woman who had taught for many years. She seemed old to me then – I guess it was her gray hair with soft short curls that made her appear matronly. I can’t really figure now how  old Mrs. Jones was when I had her.
          Diane, my best friend, was in my class again, and that fell right into a nice pattern. We decided that the teachers and maybe the principal was in on this - we were together every other year. We were in kindergarten and second grade together – and then fourth grade too. If we didn’t talk too much to each other in class that year, maybe we’d be together again in sixth grade!
         In Mrs. Jones' class, our desks were eventually moved away from each other for over-chatting – but really, we were good kids.
          One time when we were lined up in the hall to go somewhere, Mrs. Jones was talking to another teacher and they were walking slowly beside our line. There was a lull in their conversation when they were passing by me, and Mrs. Jones noticed me and stopped and said to the other teacher, “Look at Denise’s dress, here. Her mother sews the loveliest clothes.” The other teacher agreed with her and they moved on. I couldn’t tell at the time if Mrs. Jones was being flattering or sincere – but after all these years, that’s one big thing I remember about her!
          The other big fourth grade memory is not so happy. Funny yes, happy no. 
          One day we were all sitting in class – the kids at their desks and Mrs. Jones up front at her desk. She was talking. And talking and talking. I was in the row of desks over by the wall next to the hallway. I realized that I was going to be sick to my stomach, and I needed to leave the room. The lavatory was just a little bit down the hall.
           I couldn’t just get up and walk out though, I needed to ask for permission. Actually, we were only supposed to use the bathroom at scheduled times unless it was an emergency. Even though I had never asked for special permission to leave the room before, I thought this was enough of an emergency to raise my hand and ask to leave.
          Mrs. Jones saw my hand waving in the air and asked that no one raise  hands while she was giving instructions for the stuff she was talking about!
         I put my hand down and felt my face blush – why did she do that to me?
         Soon I realized that I really really needed to leave the room and I stuck my hand back in the air again.
          She looked right at me and did not ask me what I wanted! Mrs. Jones kept right on talking! I kept my hand waving in the air and a voice inside of me said I should just walk out of the room without permission. But I was scared – if I left the room, Mrs. Jones would run after me, and if I got to the bathroom and didn’t throw-up, boy would I be in a lot of trouble!
          So I put my hand down and got out of my chair. I walked to the door, thought about making a grand escape, but then instead walked over to Mrs. Jones’ desk.
          She wouldn’t look at me but kept on talking to the class. Why wouldn’t she ask me what was the matter? I wasn’t going to disturb her instructions! I just wanted to go to the bathroom!!!
          Mrs. Jones sat at her desk and looked across the room at the kids. She kept talking. My face turned from red to green.
          And then I upchucked all over her desk.
         Mrs. Jones took notice of me then!
         I puked on the class book that had attendance and grades marked down!
          What a horrible and yet heroic experience!
          Days later when I returned to school, I heard Mrs. Jones remark to someone that she learned a valuable lesson that afternoon!
          In all this time since then I thought that there was something about me that made Mrs. Jones think that I deserved to be treated that way. Now that I write it all down, though, I realize the episode was just plain mean!
          I can picture the desperate little girl waving her hand in the air for help and not getting it and not understanding why – and I can picture the little girl puking on the teacher’s oh-so-important desk and papers.
           And the bitterness passes, or will someday.  

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Thursday, March 12, 2015

Monday of the Perfect Weekend

     On the third morning of the perfect weekend, Mike said there was a new message on my phone when I got up around 6:30, and I better check it because maybe it's the baby!
     Amanda's Matron of Honor, her sister Sarah, was nine months pregnant at the time of the wedding with the due date of March 27th. People wondered, and probably took bets, although I don't know of any, if the baby was going to upstage the bridal couple by making an early appearance at the wedding!

Sarah and Amanda
Sarah herself just wanted the baby to stay inside long enough for Tony and Amanda to get married – and after that, any time would be okay.
     And the baby complied by not getting born on March 10th. But early in the morning on Monday March 12th, around 3AM, Sarah went into labor. She called me on the phone to ask me to come help with her two year old – Virginia was asleep, but labor could go on past Ms V's wake up time. I did not hear the call! What a horrible mother! But as soon as I got the message, I called back – John answered the phone. He said his mother had come over to take care of Virginia, and indeed, Ms V had gone off to day care oblivious to what her mother was going through and what would be awaiting her when she got home that afternoon. John said I was probably not needed. The midwife was there.
     About 15 minutes later, John posted on Facebook that he had a son! And then he called and said I could come over. They were living in an apartment in Atlanta at the time, near Lovett School where Sarah was the lower grades librarian. The midwife and her apprentice were weighing the baby and they examined the placenta before blending it and placing it in the freezer in ice cube trays! Sarah was wearing a librarian tee shirt that said “I've got Issues”. She told me to call all of the family – many of whom were still in town because of the wedding. Everyone was welcome to come by and see and hold and oh my gosh just lovins on the baby!
     What could be a more perfect culmination to the perfect weekend? My brothers came, and their significant others, and my niece Bethany and nephew Ben. And Amanda and Tony came to town from their hotel room in Helen, Georgia. And Mike. We held little Horatio. How many people get to cuddle and cherish an absolutely newborn baby? Such a beautiful gift Sarah and John gave to their family that day!
Mom and her hours old great-grandson!

     A great-grandson was born – and Mom felt complete. If it were fiction it would not be believable – but we lived it – March 12, 2012!

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Wednesday, March 11, 2015

The Perfect Weekend

     Amanda and Tony's anniversary will always be thought of as the first day of what my Mom called the Perfect Weekend – that Saturday, Sunday, and Monday of March 10th through 12th of 2012. Mom had been so looking forward to the wedding because family was coming to town – coming for a happy event – and she would get to see everyone – and for most of them, it would be the last time Mom would get to be with them because she was not well and would probably not survive the year.
     And the wedding was everything anyone could hope for. Family had arrived safe and sound and in good spirits. There was no drama going on. The ceremony and reception were idyllic. And Mom was there – a part of it all. And she observed – soaking in the aura – knowing that her life mattered. If Mom had not been born, none of us would have been gathered in that spot at that time for that happy occasion, in fact many of us would not have existed at all! – that had to have made her feel that her life had been worthwhile!
     The day after the wedding, family was still in town. Mom's three children and our significant others and a couple of the grandchildren gathered at her house. Mom wanted to go through old boxes in her bonus room with us – old pictures might stir memories and maybe a story or two that had never been heard before. We teased and goofed on each other just like always. Mom basked in her family. We tried to get a group shot out in the patio under the pergola – there are only a couple of pictures from that afternoon without someone doing devil horns over someone else's head.
under the pergola March 2012
     The weather was again beautiful, and everyone was in great spirits – aside from the fact that we could have maybe spent a little more time with Mom in the bonus room – the day could not have been more perfect!


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